Relationships come with a lot of perks. You get to be with the love of your life, enjoy their company and also cherish the moments of joy. So, if you are one who has a good partner in life, then you are lucky.

 However, a long term relationship is not always a bed of roses.

There will be times when you will fight with your partner, times when you will cry, and of course, times when you will feel bore! Yes, you read it right, long term relationship often leads to boredom (at times). There is nothing wrong in admitting this, after all this is a very natural process.

But yes, noticing it solves a lot of problems.

So right now in case you are going through a ‘not-so-exciting’ phase in your relationship, what should you do?

Should you end it?

Nah! We believe in fixing things. So come let us discover some effective relation-fixing hacks.

 Generally, when things get boring, it’s important to make it fun and exciting all over again says, relationship therapist Carolyn Cole, LCPC, LMFT, NCC. However, things should not feel like work.

If you are walking on the right track, then the entire process should be fun and exciting.

1. Tell Your Partner What’s On Your Mind 

Well, if you want things to get exciting, you have to let your partner know what’s going on in your mind.

You cannot expect things to get better if you continuously talk about negative things.

Suggest your partner things that you can do together, for starters. The best idea is to select something that you both like.

2. Do things together

 Research professor, Dr. Arthur Aron, developer of the 36 questions that will make you fall in love suggests that getting things done together can be one way of rekindling the spark in your relationship.

Try to do new things that either of you have never done before. This is a proven scientific way and lots of couples have benefited from it.

Go on a trip, try scuba diving, trek some extra miles, sleep in a tent or do any thing that you always wanted to do…together!

3. Work on your sex life

 It’s a wrong idea to assume that sex should happen naturally.

Over time, couples get busy with their individual life and rarely find time to get intimate.

As noted, the lack of an active sex life is one of the primary reasons for boredom in a relationship. In that light, it’s essential to work on your sex life actively than to wait for it to happen on its own.

Make it more special by trying something unorthodox…Check these tried and tested techniques. (thank us later)

4. Break the routine

 Indeed after a certain time, everyone’s life revolves around a certain routine.

This greatly applies to the office goers. So if you want to relight the spark in your relationship then break the daily routine and do something unexpected once in a while.

Try different things every week— Cook together, arrange a candle light dinner on your roof, play video games together, get drenched in rain (can you recall when was the last time you did this?), drink a few pegs with dim blue light and a light music in the background, go on an aimless drive to spend a lazy sunday afternoon in to the woods.

Do these as you would have done with your best friend!

Though these may sound childish, this is one way of eradicating boredom from your relationship.

 5. Make that effort

 Do you remember the amount of effort you had put at the beginning of the relationship? Remember how you used to come up with ideas to surprise your beloved? So what happened to those now?

Do we stop watering the plants once they grow? No, right? In the same way, just because you are in a relationship that has grown ‘old’ now does not mean that you should stop giving it nourishment. For your relationship to grow and nurture you have to take proper care of it…always!

6. And Finally…become a child again!

 No relation can die or fade where the partners stay and play like kids. Pamper each other, play pranks on your partner, tease her by silly names and do all the non-sense that doesn’t make any sense!

Life is too short to spent in serious stuffs. Over maturity ruins everything. Just take it easy and let the fun pour in.

Over to you

Have you ever tried any hack to spice up your relationship? If yes, let us know in the comment section.