Joseph F Newton rightly said,
“People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.”
A true quote which highlights the current situation and depicts the metro/nuclear life situations. As compared to the lives led by our forefathers, the physical comforts have increased many folds today.
Technology has introduced gadgets and apps that can connect us to the remotest parts of the world, retrieve any information about anyone and enable us so to ‘socialize’ within microseconds. We have reached moon and may ultimately find many more planets in future which supports life.
On the contrary, our loneliness, isolation and boredom has also increased. Today, the greatest challenge is reaching out to others and getting emotionally connected. The miscommunication arising out of attitude of mistrust is leading to misunderstandings and bitterness in the hearts. This in turn is spoiling the quality of our relationships.
We seek Google for solutions to our problems/dilemma rather than seeking advice or sharing it with our family, friends and neighbours.
In this fast paced life nobody has time to look after or nurture others as everyone is busy in this rat race. Human sentiments and emotions are taking back seat causing misery and unhappiness.
However bridges of understanding and trust can break all barriers of prejudices, dissolve unnecessary grudges, grow healthy relationships and increase the feeling of security which will eventually make everyone’s life happier.
Sharing, caring and kindness are the attributes that connect us to others by building stronger relationships. These are the foundation of a thick walled relationship. Building relationships with people require an initiative which should be taken rather than waiting for someone else to move forward.
Wishing happiness is one thing but doing something to achieve is another thing. This reminds me of the quote:
“The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to forget is the happiest.”
Starting from this very moment you can take a few steps to build bridges in your daily life. This is beneficial in the long run and are easy to follow techniques. Let us try to implement them and make a part our lifestyle:-
1. Acknowledge that everyone is different and appreciate that-
We are all different from one another. This is what makes each one of us special. Rather than whining about each others’ differences let us learn to acknowledge the beauty in others. It is a well stated fact that every human responds better when appreciated.
2. Be a good listener-
Nobody (your friends, colleagues, relatives, family members) wants to listen to your stories, achievements and advice all the time. Sometimes they want to be heard too!
So in order to be considerate, you should also acquire the art of listening. This becomes a healthy practice and your value also increases over time.
3. Connect wholeheartedly with people-
If you are making friends, do it without any intention. Superficial relationships don’t last for a long time. Fake connections are carried out for less time and eventually you end up being lonely.
Try to have genuine contacts which will last long and will stand by you in your grey days.
4. Keep your ‘attitude’ away-
Now a days the world values people with simplicity and mingling attitude. If you have that hot headed attitude or feeling of superiority, you will be corned and not entertained by others.
A person with open heart and smile always attracts a lot of people. This is a trick if you want to be a cynosure.
Ultimately its about a simple law of universe- what you give is what you receive. If you portray a friendly, loving and a caring behaviour, you will get back the same; you will attract good and kind people in your life. So make sure to be good because a decent behaviour is always in trend.