Have you faced frequent awkward situations with your partner where you might want to tell them to spend some bucks from their pocket too? Is your partner more interested in your cash than in you?
If yes, it is time to wake up and catch the gold digger!
Well, I most certainly have a personal experience. So, the points which I will be narrating here in this post are based on my own life experiences as well as my interactions and live interviews with numerous couples and online surveys .
1. S/he Will Never Have Enough Cash
Can you guess the most characteristic feature of a gold digger? Confused?
Well, it is easy! He or she will never have enough amount to pay the bills whenever they are with you or others.
Keep a check on this and then decide whether your partner is repeating this behaviour or is it just a matter of sheer coincidence. After all it is not very difficult to distinguish between a gold digger and a harmless miser.
2. S/he Will Have Other Things To Attend Before You Can Ask For Paying Equal Amount Of Cash
Gold diggers will run away from any expense that you will levy on them to pay. Beware if you are surrounded by such people. Quite a few respondents in my survey have affirmed this.
Neha (name changed), a respondent, shared how her ex boyfriend always had some excuses ready up his sleeve whenever he is supposed to pay for something.
If your partner is making you pay for everything, try and find a better company, my friend.
3. S/he Will Play The Victim
When such a person is sure that you are a generous person at heart, s/he will start using your personality drawbacks to manipulate you.
They will have ample sob stories before you. Initially, it will only be about a few bucks but later on the frequency and the amount will soar.
In such situations, you need to learn to say, “No,” or make excuses about having no immediate cash, as such.
4. S/he Will Be Interested To Know Your Financial Background More Often Than Not
Another point that was common to a number of people (with a gold digger partner) I have talked to is that their partners are ‘too’ curious to dig deep into their financial information.
One of the best ways to detect a gold digger around you is to know their intentions.
If you are with someone asking a lot more questions about your financial stability, family income, fixed deposits, property valuations etc, then it’s high time for you to make the sharp turn from this person.
5. They Will Use Intimacy To Weaken Your Defense
Easiest ways to spot a gold differ and avoid dating such a person is to know if they are using intimacy as a weapon, whenever you beg to differ in front of them.
If this has been happening a lot with you, chances are you end up conceding and giving them what they have been arguing about lately.
In retrospect, you must ask yourself—is this a good way to communicate and handle the arguments in your relationship? Don’t you think things are turning too materialistic?
“When two people in a relationship are behaving like business partners, one of them surely is after money.”
–Nilakshi Garg
End Note
I have met a handful of introvert people who are mostly the target of gold diggers. You need to stand up and learn to say, “no,” if you want to save your hard-earned money, gentlemen and ladies.
Love can be a stinky trap if your partner is a gold digger. So, despite clouded emotions, you should always keep one aspect emotionally strong; to refuse when you think the relationship is becoming too one-sided or selfish.
Over To My Readers
I want to know your genuine opinion(s) in regard to this sensitive and long-neglected topic.
Let’s have a healthy discussion on the same in the comment box below.
Let me know how has your experience with any such gold differ person been, irrespective of their gender, race, caste, or resident.
Other Related Links to Catch a Gold Digger:
https://amsterdamshallowman.com/2014/02/spot-gold-digger-stupidity-shallow-men.html