These days people express more love in their facebook posts, whatsapp status and instagram profiles than in their real lives. And special thanks to social media today we have an opportunity to know every little detail about people’s relationship goals.
We see many couples posting pictures while on a romantic date, buying expensive gifts, kissing and celebrating their bonding dates. But are we aware of the fact that these may be superficial too?
We only get to see their happy moments. What we don’t see is the bickering, arguments, boring nights spent at homes. However you might see this reality in your relationship. By seeing the positive end on social media, we build so many assumptions in mind and unwillingly start comparing our relationship with others.
It’s natural because we are only seeing people highlight their love, not the arguments. But we are far from the reality that this kind of comparison only ruins the relationship.
And when we compare our relation with other’s, the result is disastrous!
A review conducted on couples in the age group of 28-73 who are active on social media revealed that:
- Near about 60% of the people active on social media reported that their assumption negatively impacted their relationship.
- Nearly 80% reported that it is easy to get distracted by a couple’s posts over social media, which may impact in a negative sense.
- And 50% of the couples reported that social media posts impacted their relationship in a negative way.
It’s true that couples only show one specific side of the relationship in public, but that’s a hidden fact. So, stop comparing your relationship with others as it can ruin your couple’s goals and destroy the happiness that you have.
Tips to Stop Comparing Your Relationship with Others
No matter how you feel, there are definitely some good things in your relationship which are goals for many couples. Learn to appreciate and nourish what you have by following these points:
1. Find the Happiness Within
It makes no sense to compare an apple to a mango!
When you compare relationships on social media or in reality to validate your relationship goals, you lack confidence in the current status. For instance, if you observe a man pampering his women at every step, you immediately start feeling jealous if your partner is not so expressive.
But it’s wrong because maybe your partner has another way of pampering you, but you neglect it by comparing with the other couple. Instead of this, build a sense of confidence and happiness within yourself. Remind yourself of the positive side of your partner; things what he/she does for you in their own way.
2. Stop the Blame Game
When you see a happy couple and visualize being like them, this only creates frustration and destroys your relationship.
Most partners even shout in the feeling of inferiority, “why aren’t you like them?” or “look how they care for each other.” Come on! No two human beings can act, react and behave in the same way.
Respect your partner for what they are!
When you blame your partner without thinking about your responsibility towards them, it can chip away the positive side and break the trust and bond between you both. So, it’s better to be realistic and stop cursing each other to solve your relationship problems.
3. Turn off the Jealousy Factor
Jealousy is the first reaction whenever we see a happy couple on Instagram and other social media channels. In the survey, too, it is found that 27% of people feel jealous and insecure about their relationship when hunting social media platforms.
But remember, you have the power to change, so instead of comparison, respect each other and think of your happiness and space to make memories.
4. Count your blessings
Your boyfriend may not surprise you with expensive gifts like your best friend’s boyfriend does, but may be your guy is more caring then hers’!
Your wife may not write gratitude posts for you in her facebook profile like your colleague’s wife does, but may be she is actually more grateful to god for having you!
Consciously make a list of all the good things in your relationship. You will be amazed to discover how blessed and unique your relationship is!
Be grateful to your partner for these things. Gratitude is a science and the more grateful you are to life, the universe will shower you with more good things to be happy about.
To sum it up
Constant comparison weakens a relationship. No relationship, we see around us, is perfect. The irony is that while you are busy comparing your relationship with someone else’s, assuming that their relationship is perfect, there may be a few other couples who are doing the same thing by seeing your relationship.