The honeymoon period of most relationships fades naturally. And that’s how we start to drift away from our budding relationships because we do not seek the right cause behind the chasm or the failure.

Relationships never dies naturally. Knowingly or unknowingly we kill it. Although there can be numerous reasons behind a failed relationship, in this post I will discuss about 5 most obvious reasons I have discovered in the last few years of my interaction with couples of varied age groups and background.

If you are not happy with your relationship right now, probably you need to work on these points discussed below. If done sincerely, you may revive your dying relationship.

1. We Fail To Communicate Properly

A significant reason falls down the way we communicate. To support that, a Forbes study has talked about the famous four horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling that breaks any relationship via our sole communication.

As per Dr. John Gottman’s analysis, 85% percent of men are stonewallers (the ones who delay things or refuse to accept), while 80% of women initiate an issue in any of the heterosexual relationships. That’s actually another step inside the falsified gimmicks of learning communication skills.

When we have incredibly different personalities, emotions like superiority/inferiority complex and fear of rejection pinprick our conscience. And in spite of stating the truth, we cream it with ambiguity, delayed responses, clubbed anger combusting at once. Sadly, that’s not how successful communication works.

2.We Let Everything Else Come In Between.

Be it any superfluous emotion, cultural and religious disapproval, and that nagging best friend of ours —instead of maintaining a private relationship with someone we love—we let everything in.

When we open the gates of our heart for someone, the door is left open unintentionally. Even before we learn to maintain stability with someone we are supposed to be dating, everything gets sought after, and everyone else has an opinion. This fuels overthinking and hinders the scope for a relationship to simmer slowly & last long.

If you are allowing too many external forces in your private space, be ready to face some turbulence.

3.We Feel That Financial Stress Is Not Shared

No money, no honey, baby!

A survey of 2000 people in the UK concludes on the Independent newspaper online—money is one of the biggest reasons for relationships to fail.

When an individual feels his or her partner is not able to contribute to financial stability, feelings decline, and trust breaks.

Then, insecurity transpires, and doubts take place. And again, either one partner stonewalls or nags the other without finding a perfect solution to the lack of the required financial stability between the two.

4.We Fail To Adjust or Take Charge When Required

Why me? Why not s/he?! Rings a bell?

All of us have gone through this terrible thought where we feel that our importance is going to shatter if we take the first step. We think a simple sorry or thank you is unnecessary and therefore, we start becoming a thankless person.

I gather the fact that compromise is required from both the ends, but when no one initiates, a relationship eventually cries a river.

Simply put, we don’t value the differences of opinions and personalities. Despite criminal cases around the world, we need to learn to accept disagreement, rejection, and honesty. More or less, couples lack in exchanging and working on the constructive feedbacks; otherwise, a relationship would grow taller than Burj Khalifa and deeper than Mariana Trench!

Studies even show that men and women both have a slightly different way of perceiving an impression of their mate, even if many do overlap.

5. We Fail To Observe

I know no one can solely drive a relationship to its brink. For that reason, a relationship is a jointly proactive responsibility. It cannot work without sharing and caring, literally. But we fail to take notice of how and why a person has changed.

The feelings do not sink in until and unless it’s too late. We think, Oops! We missed the train! It was meant to be…

But hear me on this people:

If you took care; if you noticed the smudges on your relationships earlier, it couldn’t have failed. Things are not okay when women say it’s fine! And men don’t always want to dominate you when they give you a piece of advice!

—Take the initiative, solve differences, and accept the efforts. Don’t be a mere giver or a taker. Be a blend of both if you don’t want your relationship to fail.