Relationships never die a natural death; they are murdered mercilessly by our own actions. And insecurity is one of them. Insecurity has perhaps killed more relationships around the world than anything else.

Though a little insecurity does no appreciable harm, but getting insecure every now and then actually is injurious to a relationship. The last thing people would want from a relationship is a chronically insecure partner.

In case you are not sure about your insecurity, this post should help you to understand if knowingly or unknowingly you are destroying your own relation by trying to over protect it.

1) You tend to scan their social media profiles every now and then

In an interesting survey by Avast, 24 percent men and 30 percent women admitted of snooping just because they were nosy!

Do you maintain a database of your partner’s friends? And keep an eye on the comments people post in their pictures…and the messages they sent… and the number of likes they got in their dp… and the friend requests they accepted…and on all the things that is totally not your business?

Gosh! Stop it dear, you are just in a simple relationship and not a trainee in some spying school! Understand the difference!

2) And you chase them in offline mode too

Be it an old friend wanting to meet your partner after a long time for a casual cup of coffee, the receptionist smiling at him out of courtesy or the waiter greeting her warmly, anyone who interacts with your partner is seen as a potential threat to your relationship by you.

If you are doing these in order to prevent your relationship from getting killed, then forget about the relationship, you will soon kill the poor guy!  Read this form discussion to understand how insecurities kill relationships.

3) You need to communicate constantly

Do you call or ping your partner every now and then to know what they are doing, how they are doing and why they are doing? Do you demand to know about everyone they meet or everything they do throughout the day? And do you get anxious, frustrated or furious when they fail to reply or receive your calls?

If yes, then you should understand that what you are doing is not love and your partner has absolutely no need to narrate every small detail about his daily life. By doing these things  you are digging a grave for your own relationship.. Stop being a jailor and give them some space.

4) You are unnecessarily possessive

Is your darling a piece of pastry or a bar of tempting chocolate that people outside will swallow them, the moment you set them free for a few hours? Come on!  If you truly love your partner you should not suffocate them with over possessiveness.

Moreover it is a crime to keep someone captivated in a free country. Live and let live…FREELY!

4) You are Jealous

Next time when someone says “Jealousy is Cute in a relationship” don’t hesitate to break their jaw. This phrase has misled millions of young people to believe that jealousy is actually a virtue.

When you constantly cover your faults under the veil of cuteness, soon this becomes your habit and gradually becomes chronic. And chronic jealousy is a curse to any relationship!  

5) You always seek validation

Do you always seek validation from people about your relationship in the form of likes and comments? Well, happy couples seldom post any detail about their relationship online. A research by Department of Psychology, Northwestern University has revealed that people who post too often about their relationships in social media do this out of insecurity.

What you need to understand here is that a relationship is not something to brag about or make someone else jealous. And you have absolutely no reason to prove your bonding with your partner to your friends and colleagues!

If you are truly happy in your relationship, people will sense it anyway and if not, no matter how many decorative posts you upload, they will sense it again. Clever people, isn’t it?

6) Your partner’s friend circle is your sworn enemy

Is it? Do you find your love’s close buddies irritating and try to keep them away from their friends?  If yes, then this is a sure sign of insecurity because an insecure person cannot have a good relationship with their partner’s friends.

If you feel spying, restricting someone’s normal life, killing personal space or keeping an eye over social accounts is a sign of true love, then come out of this illusion before your partner commits suicide out of frustration or runs away with someone else!

Insecurity is absolutely not needed in relationships because if you have a loyal partner then you have no reason to feel insecure and in case you are dealing with a jerk, your insecurities will have no effect on him and eventually he will leave you. So in either case you need not be nosy!

Usually insecurity is exhibited by people who have low self esteem and confidence. So if you too are insecure about your relationship, it has probably nothing to do with your partner. Get rid of insecurity by working on your own shortcomings, injecting positive thoughts in mind, boosting your confidence, visiting a counselor and see how blissful relationships can be!